Don’t lie. Life will be much simpler.
Even lies that seem to start out small or “harmless” will erode sooner than later and just cause us more trouble. We’ll end up becoming stressed and confused and life will be harder for us than if we just told the truth in the first place.
To avoid lying, we have to get to the bottom of why people do it in the first place. There are two answers: We are either making the wrong decision or we are seeking other people’s approval.
We’ve identified the problem, now let’s fix it.
Stop making wrong decisions. For example, if you are not sick, don’t call your boss and tell them that you are. That’s a lie that will eventually explode and cause you more trouble. Instead, ask yourself why you are calling out sick and address that problem. Is it that you don’t like your job? Instead of lying, take a vacation day, do something relaxing, and evaluate what job you should have. Then make a change. Don’t be afraid of change. So often, people lie about things instead of just making changes in their life that need to be made.
Decide your opinion of yourself matters the most. I use to severely struggle with seeking other people’s approval. I was continuously worried about what everyone else thought about me. I’d replay conversations over and over in my mind. I was very obsessive. It was terrible. I was a slave to what other people thought. As a result, this can definitely lead to lies in an attempt to avoid judgement or to avoid upsetting people. Then, one day, thank the good Lord, I was freed from this struggle. What changed? I finally liked myself. There were things I didn’t use to like about me. I didn’t really know who I was or what I was put on this earth to do. Once I figured all that out, and embraced who I was, I no longer cared what other people thought. If I like my decision, that’s all that matters. When I finally understood and loved who I was, I stopped lying. When I stopped lying, my life became significantly simpler.
We all deserve a simpler life. We all deserve to love ourselves. We all deserve to live without fear of judgement. I’d love to chat with you more about this topic. Please tweet me! @AndreaGraye
And remember, I love you!
Andrea Graye :)