All posts tagged: encouragement

Move Forward, But…

Recently, I was watching the Real Housewives of New York and noticed that every time there was an emotional blowup of sorts, one of the women would inevitably say something like, “I just want to move forward.” That’s great, but they kept wanting to “move forward” without at all addressing the terrible thing they did (or that was done to them by a fellow RHONY costar). We all need to live in the present and look to the future, never letting the past hold us back. BUT, we must first deal with what happened. If we don’t, we won’t heal, and we’ll never really move past it. It’s hard, but I’ll hold your hand. Here’s how we do it….

Lies Explode Like Eggs in a Microwave

Don’t lie. Life will be much simpler.

Even lies that seem to start out small or “harmless” will erode sooner than later and just cause us more trouble. We’ll end up becoming stressed and confused and life will be harder for us than if we just told the truth in the first place.

To avoid lying, we have to get to the bottom of why people do it in the first place. There are two answers:

I’m Not Me if I Can’t….

If I can’t create, I’m not me. I learned this truth about a year ago, when it became increasingly apparent to me that life behind a computer is arduous, while one in front of dreamy racks of clothes to be styled is heavenly.

If we aren’t doing the greatest things we were created to do, we’ll never be fulfilled. I have MS. I never write about this or talk about it on social media. It’s not because I’m trying to be secretive. It’s because of a lot of other reasons…

New Year…New Me?

With each new day I strive to become a better person than I was the day before. Setting daily goals helps us meet our longer-term goals. Make a decision with each new day to move closer towards a dream! Let’s take one of the most recognized New Year’s Resolutions…Getting Healthy/Losing Weight. Most people will start out strong, making daily trips to the gym, cutting carbs, or even choosing “diets” that are harmful to their bodies. Instead of going all in, set daily or weekly goals for yourself. If you choose a salad over that juicy cheeseburger you have been eating for lunch, you have made a step towards your goal. Too often people will set goals that are far from realistic with the resources they have. After a period of time setting too high of an expectation for themselves they “fail” and get discouraged allowing their resolution to go as quick as it started. Now set down that bowl of ice cream and take a walk around the block instead…you will thank yourself later. While you are at …

How You Feel Means….Everything

How do you feel?  Sometimes, the answer isn’t clear.  This is not good, because if we don’t know how we feel, we can’t be happy and healthy. There’s so much cultural phooie-ness that takes up residence in our minds and it totes blocks the truthful answer to this question from coming out.  I say, let’s put an end to that right now! Head’s up: we need to be ready to have a different mindset than what our culture has led us to believe is “right.”  This is a good thing, because change only happens with new mindsets! 1) You have a right to be treated like the princess you are.  I cannot tell you how unhappy it makes me to hear the phrase “First World Problems.”  What the heck is that supposed to mean anyway?!  Why do we judge our circumstances by comparing our lives to societies with the worst living situations?  That’s just silliness.  Let’s judge our circumstances by comparing our lives to a world where there is no brokenness and people are treated …

Who Do You Love?

Take a moment and think about it… Did you remember to include yourself? Never forget about loving you!  Take time out of your busy day to focus on you.   Just 10 to 15 minutes will do: gather your thoughts & emotions and make sure you are doing what is necessary to promote a healthy relationship with you.  Embrace who you are and be grateful for your life in the present moment. Put aside 10 to 15 minutes a day to do something you enjoy that brings you peace of mind.  Maybe you would enjoy reading a chapter from your favorite author, or relax while you enjoy 15 minutes of yoga or meditation.  You may even enjoy sitting at the coffee shop with your favorite latte while you wind down from your busy day to just gather your thoughts.  Whatever you choose to do, take time out of your day just for you! Self love increases your ability to provide better relationships with those who you thought of loving first! Now I ask you…who do you …

It’s Your Life: Be Unselfishly Self-Centered

Putting ourselves first as gotten such a bad wrap.  We’re all constantly expected to put the needs and feelings of others before our own.  This, incorrectly, has been taught to us as the “nice”, “correct”, and “godly” way to live. I call “phooey.”  There is nothing good about living a life that doesn’t address our own needs.  If my own needs are not taken care, I’m not half as good of a friend, spouse, or daughter to anyone else. I’m constantly driving myself crazy thinking about people in my life not accepting that it doesn’t work for me to attend their events.  I say, let’s put anything that drives us crazy out of our lives, for good.  Who’s with me? There are only 2 steps to living a significantly more balanced, more fruitful, and more relaxing life: 1) Learn this mucho crucial phrase: “That doesn’t work for me.”  It’s that simple.  No guilt, no excuses, and most importantly, NO EXPLANATIONS needed.  If an invitation to a party, a holiday celebration, a wedding, a trip, etc. …

Make Every Day a Friday!

You’re sleeping restlessly as you dream about sprinting down East 42nd street with a snapped stiletto heel and frizzy summer hair, panicked that you are late to your Business Chicks luncheon.  Suddenly, you hear that siren-ey bullhorn noise of your alarm that sounds way too much like Janice from Friends.  You contemplate opening your eyes, feeling totes not ready to face the day.  Then it hits you: it’s Friday.  Glorious Friday!  You’re meeting your bestie for a quick drink after work to catch up on which nail polish is currently being marketed as the “most durable” for your summer adventures, then off to an al fresco dinner with your gorge husband under the stars! Why can’t every day, be Friday?  Well, I’m here to tell you it can.  All it takes is a little creativity and a moment to plan.  Here’s the recipe: 1) Carve 10 minutes out of your Saturday and sit down with your electronic calendar. 2) Look at the following week’s “responsibilities” (a meeting with your co-worker, apartment hunting with your spouse, …

Choose to Be HAPPY!

When you wake up in the morning do you choose to be happy? When you start your day with a positive mind set and positive thoughts, you have made the first step in deciding your day will not be destroyed by the negativity that surrounds you.  Only you can control the doorway to your mind.  You are in charge of what comes into your thoughts and how you react to them.  You’re in charge of how you react to others.  Choose to be positive in a negative situation and see which emotion wins the battle.  Your day will have a whole new meaning and a fresh start to the life that has always been waiting for you around the corner.  The power of positivity might just open your soul to the world you have chosen to close out all your life. When you wake up in the morning will you choose to be happy?